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Moving Challenges ~ Counting to 1,000 ~ Winter Ski Vacation

This has been an amazing move for our family and the months since we left Maine last May and then arrived here in Gaspé last fall have been full to the brim with blessings.

Honestly, it's like I've been given a gift - the gift of dreams coming true and creating the life we want for our family.

We live surrounded by beauty. I spend every day with my husband and I love it. I'm home with my kids, I'm writing more. I could go on.

But life is far from easy and perfect (there ain't no heaven on earth) and there are struggles and challenges in the everyday. I'd like to share a few of these because I like being real and also because FIMBY is a family life chronicle and I want to record these memories.

Stuff I'm struggling with right now

The grocery budget. Oh my goodness the grocery budget, which I've blown (by a lot) three months in a row now. It's killing me (the family tightwad & money manager). Thank goodness it's not killing my husband who is working hard to support this habit of family has, called eating.

If someone has some real whole-food, gluten-free, plant-based, living-in-a northern-climate-and-rural-area-where-food-is-expensive tips for saving money on the grocery bill I'd love to hear them.

Keep in mind the only processed stuff we eat is rice cakes and salsa (ok, a few more but you get the idea), I cook our food from scratch, I already shop at the cheapest place in town for my produce, we don't eat animals (can't cut that out to save $$), I buy in bulk everything I'm able to, I've already lowered my organic standards, and there isn't coupons for most of what we eat.

The challenge of learning French. We moved to a French speaking province (four of the five of us don't speak French - yet). There are days I am SO excited about this amazing opportunity to learn a second language. If I had a bucket list this would be on it.

Then there's days when the reality of being a minority is lonely. But this is mostly ok since I honestly appreciate knowing what this feels like and the people here are warm, friendly and eager to help me learn the language. 

No homeschool community. Nada. I knew this going in, but I had hope there might be homeschoolers hidden somewhere. I still have hope, but it is waning. 

This is not such a big deal for me personally. I am strong and independent minded, I've been homeschooling for years and have confidence. Also, I have a growing community of friends I've met online. For our children though, it's more difficult. We have a strong family but friends matter also. 

The lack of good library services. We used to visit the library every week. We regularly had 40-50 library books in our home at one time. Now we we have about 15 and they are mostly French graphic novels. Cool books, but not what we're used to.

This is a huge learning curve for me. I finally accepted the fact that we are going to be a book buying family, mostly electronic as we don't want to accumulate books in our attempts at small scale family living. But this is hard and potentially expensive, and a big mental adjustment for me.

Banking, insurance, financial record keeping from a year of transitioning to self employment, living in two different countries, and three separate states/provinces. Need I say more.

Growing children. Navigating the beginning waters of transition to scholar/young adulthood for Celine is exciting but scaring and unnerving for me, and probably for her. I want to do this thing called motherhood to the best of my ability and these are biggie years we're headed into. And transition to anything is never easy.

Moving, specifically from a small urban city in the US to a small village in Canada. There is less "stuff" available here. This is mostly a good thing, we didn't move here for stuff but for quality of life. There is a local culture here that hasn't been swallowed by big box stores. We love that!

But along with no big box stores comes less stuff available in general. And although I've never shopped at Target and it's been years since I've been in a Wal-Mart, etc. I'm having to re-learn everything I'm used to buying and sourcing for our family's needs. 

When we lived in the US we got used to the good life of easy online ordering. There is no Amazon prime here, shipping is expensive and there is just less available, even online. Big adjustment for our family.

Along these lines I'd really appreciate it if Canadian readers could tip me off to where to buy health/organic foods, herbs, household goods (looking for a funnel right now) and just good Canadian online shopping in general.

 

Please.

Change.

That's the word for all of it. The difficulty in the move has been the change.

And when I struggle in this place of "why did I bring all this change upon myself - willingly?!" I try, try, try to turn my heart to gratitude.

Winter Intention Biggie ~ Gratitude

Gratitude is a huge theme for me right now. Because I am so blessed and when I lose sight of that I need to bring myself back to that place - pronto.

Just this morning while editing this post (I do let myself get distracted by e-mail while writing sometimes) I got another e-mail from a friend pointing me in this direction. The universe is sending me this message, over and over again. I need to tune in and listen.

Cultivating gratitude, specifically, writing down the blessings in my life is one of my most important winter intentions.

When I originally shared that I was reading Ann's book One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are I was a bit dismissive with this comment:

"I'm halfway through and I have not found it to be a life changing read for me (at least not yet) but it's an excellent reminder for the life I'm trying to life. I've been practicing the discipline of noticing everyday glory and grace in my life, especially beauty, for years now. Ann's books is pushing me into a deeper practice of grace, thanksgiving, and joy - eucharisteo."

At that point last fall the book had not been as transformational as I was expecting. After all the press and hoopla it received I was expecting... something more? It took some getting used to Ann's prose and really, I know this stuff in my head. But the more I read I questioned - do I live it in my heart?

As I read I felt challenged to kick it up a notch. But not only that, I was struck with the reality that of how life changing gratitude really is.

And so I'm trying to be more diligent in writing the graces, blessings and gifts in my life.

I'm a writer, this makes perfect sense to me. I write to process and understand. Writing one thousand gifts seems daunting but I need to do it to keep my focus in the right place. Otherwise, my "gaze" wanders to the grocery budget, the bank account balance, my library frustrations.

It's a spiritual discipline I need to grow - not the writing (though that's helpful), but the right heart attitude. I'm starting to work my way thoughtfully through Mindset for Moms and it's a continuation of this same theme (though written much differently than Ann's book). I'm excited to be bringing that book to you here at FIMBY in a few weeks.

Next up... the nitty gritty of the rest of my winter intentions. Where I talk about finances, food, and friends. 

{All the photos in this post (and the next) on winter intentions are from our January ski vacation. Realizing I probably won't get around to writing a post dedicated to that trip (now there's a story - the situation, the stress, the utter relief and relaxation) I'm working photos of that trip into a few posts.}

3 February 12

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I was going to say Lee Valley

I was going to say Lee Valley as well -- that's where I got my canning funnel!

The Canadian Organic Growers site has a few links I thought you might try for organic products (either CSAs or even on-line companies (see below).

Bonne chance!

Carrefour bioalimentaire du Québec www.carrefouralimentaire.com -- Ministère de l'Agriculture et des Pêcheries et de l'Alimentation du Québec. The site is bilingual (French and English). A directory of 3200 companies. Search keys available: Kosher food, Organic food, ... For Quebec businesses only.

Le Bottin Équiterre www.equiterre.org -- a database with many search keys like biologique (organic), ASC (CSA), local, équitable (fair trade).

La fédération d'agriculture biologique du Québec (FABQ) www.fabqbio.ca -- click on "Entrez dans le site", click on "Produits Bio" and you get a list of about 100 organic producers.

CARTV Directory of Québec Certified Organic Products http://www.quebecorganicproducts.info

Welcome to my world of trying

Welcome to my world of trying to eat healthy in a cold, expensive, plastic wrapped small town :) I did mention well.ca before (Dr.Bronners, organic non-bleached feminine hygeine stuff, etc.). For my favorite herbs, lotion making type stuff, etc., I end up ordering once/year from Mountain Rose Herbs. The shipping is ridiculous but I can't find what I want in Canada. I've ordered some kitchen type things from TheBay.ca. Sometimes for clothing like undies, socks, pj bottoms, etc., we order through old navy - online. They often have 35-50% off deals that I receive via email. We can order from MEC online, can you in Quebec? For art supplies I mostly order through DickBlick. Of course i scope out etsy when I need gifts/things for my home. but otherwise we head once in a while to the nearest city, long list in hand to find what we need. My preference is finding everything possible online.

I am about halfway through my list of "1000 things" inspired by Ann's book. I tend to add to it in spurts rather than on a daily or weekly basis. The actual practice of choosing gratitude can be life-changing, I think. But like you said, we actually have to DO IT. Make that effort. Choose that attitude.

Last night I wrote a little about my heart and mothering a biracial family - about risking for love. And I thought of you. I think you risked for love in this move and pursuit of family dreams/goals. It looks different than my life but I wonder if it boils down to the same choice/determination to follow your heart no matter the cost.

Golda's Kitchen is reliable

Golda's Kitchen is reliable and they have a lot of funnels available online! http://www.goldaskitchen.com/index.ihtml

I did a search for herbs,Canada and found this place: http://www.richters.com/
I haven't tried them but it looks like a good site. I don't live far from them and they're actually the herbs that I see in our grocery store. Quite a few places came up when I did the search.

I understand your problems with the budget. Everything costs more here (and I don't even live in a rural area where it's worse). Plus the cost of food is going up in general. To be honest, I order clothes and other things from the U.S. from a store that has free shipping to Canada and it's usually cheaper, even with paying duty (for that quality of products). You're already doing so much to keep your food budget down that I don't know what I can add! Maybe eat more beans and legumes?

That does sound challenging!

That does sound challenging! Wonderful, but challenging. I guess the best things are.

The pictures are stunning. What a beautiful place.

I hope you find some good tips for shopping in Canada. That has got to be tough.

I admire your courage to go and do, even when it's difficult.

Online

Online shopping...hmmm...

Amazon.ca is slowly building up its offerings of housewares etc. They have a variety of products, including funnels, that are either sold and shipped directly by them or through stores, i.e. Golda's Kitchen. One of the things I like about amazon.ca is that if your order is over $25 you will likely qualify for free shipping. So if you need to order books and household stuff etc. that can work in your favour.

Bookcloseouts.ca has an Amazon storefront, but you are better off ordering directly from them as Amazon charges shipping *per item* bought from storefronts. They sell publishers' overstock and it's not uncommon for me to find books there that I can in the store. They do have regular sales, will send you a discount code for your next order (they like to include it on the bookmarks sent with each package), and sometimes they have free shipping promos.

Richters is great for live herb plants, but they won't travel well by courier. The seeds, when you are settled in somewhere and want to plant a garden, are of great quality and they are worth ordering from.

A related story that has something that build off of...years ago I kept kosher and knew of a family that lived in a remote area, and kept vegan kosher. Which is challenging if you don't live in larger centre. Once a month or so they made a trip into Toronto and stocked up on the stuff they couldn't find locally. Not just foodstuffs, but anything they needed. At the same time they made it a point to connect with community that they didn't have living in a rural community. If your long-term plan is to stay in the area, maybe your next home will need to have a larger area for pantry and freezer storage. You could plan for trips to larger towns where you could pick up supplies and at the same time seek out other homeschoolers or english language resources....maybe make long weekends of the trips? Plan for hiking/exploring on the first day and do all your shopping on the day you start back?

You've probably already thought of that...but just in case.

Have you guys considered

Have you guys considered InterLibrary Loans (ILL's in most places)? When I worked in the shipping and receiving department of our regional library we were shipping stuff to Canada all the time. There is a large Hispanic community in our small town, and though the library has some resources, it doesn't have many. Many use ILLs to bring in books from Mexico, Ecuador, and Central America.

I'd try an American

I'd try an American university. Often times they will allow you to check out stuff if you have the right connections to the school (something tells me you might know of an American college where you might have a few connections). Here they usually mail for free. Often times they will lend books to people who are not enrolled and do not necessary have residency. The library used to do this all the time with the colleges and visa-verse. I cannot say it is necessarily in the rules, but it happened regularly.

Many times you can try the ASI - American Schools International. They have American language schools all over the world. My mother and many of my other school co-workers now teach for them all over. They talk about military and other families using their supplies to homeschool their kids. My mother is now a literacy specialist (not the librarian as she was before) in Dubai. They allow American families to have library cards to homeschool their kids. Another co-worker had the same thing happen in Germany. I don't know if it is standard policy, but they do it. ASI is also prek-12 so you don't have to worry about your kids aging out of the service. I know in the U.S. ANY citizen can receive a library card from a public school. You have to show ID and might get a little hassle at first, but it is fully legal since tax dollars pay for all the books. You could see if the local school has the same deal up there. It wouldn't help you as an adult much, but it might work well for the kids.

Dear Renee, Maybe their is a

Dear Renee,
Maybe their is a possibility to learn french at home from a local person in your neighbourhood. In return you can teach english to that person or to her/his child/ children. So you do a sort of change-out without paying, it is in your own house and maybe when their is the possiblity to teach a child or children english, your children has also the oppertunity to make contact with other children. Or maybe you can change the french lessons with a creative course or maybe creative writing or journalling. These are just ideas; i was thinking about your live and your choices and i was thinking about the way i would try to do things when i was in your situation. I love your blog, your way of life and your beautiful pictures. Greetings from thre Netherlands, Marian

I hate to be the

I hate to be the messenger...I came across a blog that, which if correct, that explains that you may have a tough time finding ebooks of any sort available through a Quebec library. See http://20somethinglibrarian.wordpress.com/2011/09/11/public-libraries-in...

Page 21 of this report more fully explains the ebook situation in the Quebec libraries http://www.plr.ca/PLR/documents/FinalreportinEnglish_000.pdf

Sorry :(

Hey, if we could figure out a way for me to borrow ebooks through my library and have you read them I wouldn't mind doing it from time to time.

Wow, so much great help here

Wow, so much great help here in the comments.

Renee, yes, those things do seem very frustrating. It is great that you continue to keep a grateful heart through it all. And just think, all the adversity just makes the story that much more interesting.

What I am hearing is an

What I am hearing is an opportunity. Maybe you could start a used book store/book exchange/ natural foods coffee/internet shop? Maybe I am dreaming, but if something is missing in your community, you might be able to enrich the community and your pocketbook by providing a local service/product.

MOM

Renee, I have a few good tips

Renee, I have a few good tips for you I think (as you know, we lived in Quebec and Yukon all our life.

1-FOOD (produce, bulk and natural cleaning products). By far the best way to have good deals is to join an ordering group. In the Yukon, we did it through Horizon distributors, but it was only for dry goods. In Quebec, we were part of a group that ordered every week from Gaétan Bono (one of the two company that distributes organic produce) and it was almost half the price of what we found in the stores. Some friends started a group in our area too and that created a whole community around it, they even contacted local farmers to add eggs, poultry, fish, cheese, etc. I would be happy to put you in contact with these two groups so you could maybe start your own...

2 - BOOKS, we order through Amazon.ca for new books, but use Bookmooch a lot. Do you know this book exchange network? It has been a really money saver for us! I highly recommend it!

3 - ORDERING, the best tip I can give you is to get the adress of the closest mail depot in the States. I don't know exactly where you live, but you probably can cross the border in a couple of hours, no? That's what we did both in the Yukon and Qc and they charged ridiculusly small fee (like $3 per box) and you have an address in the States (so we ordered through Amazon.com, iherbs (lots of whole food and raw products there!) and much much more for our supplements, car parts, wooden toys, etc.). We have an adress I could give you in Derby Line, but this is too far from where you live I guess (I don't know exactly where you are, but look into this... This is the BEST way to save money in Canada!).

4 - Also, did you join a CSA?

5 - Oh it sucks that you did not connect with homeschooling families... They are there, they are just flying under the radar... There is a bunch of homeschoolers near Rimouski. I don't know where you are but I could ask them if they know anybody in your area... As far as the language barrier goes, I am right there with you... We are going through the same thing here in Costa Rica and it is challenging... We need lots and lots of patience...

Write to me personnally (cforest(at)hotmail(dot)come) as I would love to give you more tips!

Love,

Catxx

Starting from ground zero in

Starting from ground zero in the winter is tough on the grocery budget. How do people around you get their food? For us, there are three basic categories: Pantry stuff, preserved stuff, and buy frequently stuff. We minimize costs by making the last category as small as possible - stocking up on staples every few months from a cheaper location (usually when we have to travel anyway), and putting garden veggies, berries, and fish in the chest freezer throughout the summer. Actually, we can eat kale from the garden all year long by digging it out from the snow, and I've gotten good at making a very large number of meals contain kale in some form. Most of what I buy on a week to week basis is some fruit and eggs and a few veggies. And the eggs and veggies I could get away from if I had chickens, a root cellar and a larger garden (which some folks here do).
Perhaps you just have to get through this winter, and then have a more reasonable budget next winter when you have time to accumulate food?
Also, I do accept some of the higher costs as a price for living here. Some things are quite cheap (housing), and the lack of stores cuts down on arbitrary spending a lot. But the things that come from far away really just are more expensive.

We eat a lot of produce too

We eat a lot of produce too (though we have a smaller family, so I'm sure less than you) - just less of it is fresh this time of year. Don't discount frozen veggies. Home-frozen from the garden (or farmers market) is wonderful (root cellars are good too - don't have one yet), but in the absence of that, supermarket frozen might be an OK alternative to reduce the budget of flying it fresh from who-knows-where. I find that my frozen veggies are often tastier this time of year than what gets shipped in "fresh" from the other end of the world.
And if you're going to have any sort of garden in the summer - plant as much kale as you can. If your family is willing to eat it, it is truly the year-round miracle veggie of the north, that will keep you happily in salads in February for basically zero cost.

Well, I don't think we get

Well, I don't think we get enough sun to get anything to actually GROW in the winter w/o lights. But we're much farther north than you, so in a greenhouse/cold frame you might have better luck. It would at least extend the season. One easy way to give plants a head start is the white row cover you can get in garden catalogs, but it won't help once the snow falls.
All I did was plant about 58 square feet in kale in the summer (mostly Winterbor variety, with some Dwarf Siberian). 58 square feet makes A LOT of kale if the soil and sun are good. I just pick the lower leaves from the plant throughout the summer and eat/preserve them, then leave the rest to dig up from the snow and eat in the winter. And you can just use them raw in salads that way, just let any ice chunks melt off and you're good to go. I'm not sure we could have a big salad every day of the winter with just that much kale though (we have far more salad than we can possibly eat in the summer). You'd probably need more area. Or to mix it up with root cellared cabbage, etc...

Several weeks ago I linked to

Several weeks ago I linked to an article that skimmed some aspects of winter gardening. If you are considering planning a crop of veggies for winter harvest and want more in depth information, take a look at a book by Eliot Coleman 'The Winter Harvest Handbook: Year Round Vegetable Production Using Deep Organic Techniques and Unheated Greenhouses'. There is a Kindle version of the book.

Kale is biennial, so if you planted it before frost, harvested it over the winter, but left enough of the plant above grade for new leaves to form in the spring (just a bit of the stalk is all you really need to leave), you actually have a plant producing well ahead of other greens. The frost sweetens the flavour so that can be an added bonus.

I feel your 'shipping pain'!

I feel your 'shipping pain'! I grew up in Ontario, but my mother's family members are mostly in the States, so we go there semi-frequently and I'm pretty aware of the cost difference in many areas. Honestly, I tend to stockpile things in my Amazon cart and wait until our yearly trip to see my aunt, when I get it all shipped to her. Everything from books to natural cosmetic ingredients and kitchen ware. I even buy a year's worth of coconut oil, natural dishsoap, and other essentials when we go. Even on years when we are iffy about making the trip, I consider that an excellent reason to be motivated to go. It's teaching me the value of waiting!

It is possible to have packages shipped to UPS stores in border towns, where many charge only a small fee to hold packages. A stockpile trip there could be worth it. Or even just to Montreal.

I also order many ingredients from Canwax, a soap and candle supply place near Toronto. https://canwax.3dcartstores.com/ You can manipulate your order amount and weights to see what is most worthwhile for shipping. But that's where I get lye, butters, etc. I have a local source for beeswax, which I would guess would be true near you... it did take me a while to find mine, though!

I order a significant portion of our dry goods, including wheat berries, etc, from www.mountainpath.com. They deliver to Montreal, which might be worth it if you are doing a yearly or so trip there and want to stock up. If your order is over $300, delivery is free - if you're really stocking, hitting $300 is not hard at all.

A couple of things to

A couple of things to add...

- You can get a non-resident card at the Ottawa Public Library for $100 per year for a family. They have e-books - you could check out the selection online first to see if it is worth your while: http://biblioottawalibrary.ca
- A non-resident card at Toronto Public Libray is $30 for three months

- I've just recently discovered Canada Post's Comparison Shopper website http://www.canadapost.ca/shopper/. It finds Cdn and US online sources for all kinds of items, displays prices in Cdn dollars, includes shipping costs in its prices, and tracks price history so you can see when certain sites usually have sales etc. It probably won't help with things like herbs and food, but might be useful for clothing and outdoor gear.

Hope that helps!
MJP (in Ottawa)

The other thing I meant to

The other thing I meant to mention is that I offset a lot of our plant-based costs through preserving. Obviously you can't start this right now, but a lot of our family's vegetable nutrition is coming from the tomatoes I bought in 25kg boxes in August and canned into quart jars. Also applesauce, peaches, salsa, jams and butters, pickles, and LOTS of frozen veggies. Some from our garden, some purchased organic, some purchased conventional, depending on how realistic the prices were. In the long term, growing or buying in-season produce and preserving it might be the most sustainable option for you in that location. I find that a beans-and-rice-with-tomatoes-and-frozen-spinach, etc meal can be very satisfying with applesauce for dessert! And very inexpensive.

I have had no border problems

I have had no border problems yet. Often I am waved through, even if I am over the limit. it seems to be very much of the discretion of each guard. That being said, because there is a reasonable limit per person, if we go as a family we get some good limit leeway even if you just run over for a quick day. If you stay overnight 1 night, the limit goes up considerably. That would be something to consider if you are really ordering a lot.

Yes - the selection is a bit

Yes - the selection is a bit sparse right now, at least in Ottawa. And it tends to be mostly "mainstream" fiction or pop-culture focused. Hopefully it will improve over the next couple of years!

As for your book buying

As for your book buying issue.

I heard this initially through my in-laws who live in BC, but if you own a Kobo Reader you can actually BORROW books from a library! For three weeks!

As your neighbour in New Brunswick, my husband and I each got ourselves Kobos this year for Xmas and low and behold....we can borrow books from any library in NB online!

So seeing as you can do this in bumpkin NB and across the country in BC...I don't see how Quebec wouldn't offer it.

It would mean that you could essentially borrow books from a big library in Montreal (which would undoubtedly offer more English), without leaving your home!

[Another bonus of owing a Kobo(unlike Kindle)is that you are able to download an EPUB version of the book you purchased and are then able to share books. So when I bought a trilogy that my husband also wanted to read, it arrived into my Kobo account and I also downloaded the Epub version into our Adobe Digital Editions, and my husband could then put it onto his Kobo too! (and visa-versa).]

So I am not sure if this is a feasible option for you, but something worth checking out!

All you would need would be a Quebec Library card, which you probably already have, or you could order online...as my husband did here.

Hope this helps!
Sarah
Your neighbour in NB

Yeah, the kicker is if the

Yeah, the kicker is if the library owns the books that you wish to borrow--in English. But you can always look up the libraries online right now to see what they already have available to borrow and can always request books, right?

A start anyway :-)

That way you can see if it is worth the purchase of a Kobo. May not be, but...here's hoping!

I know that our NB card allows to borrow books anywhere in NB, so the following ought to be true in QC, which means having access to libraries which have a greater English variety--like Montreal?

Or if you have your Nova Scotia library card and are able to borrow library books online in NS via your Kobo...you are golden!

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